Nostalgia, the best decorated enemy — We are never aware of the moments that change everything, while everything is changing. Nostalgia, the best decorated enemy, convinces us that the moment was something within our control and not something that made its mind up and therefore was carrying out its plan. There is something about the happening…

I am not powerless, I have been overpowered — Warning: this story contains frank discussion of child sexual abuse some readers may find traumatizing. I am a woman who exists in the shadow, at least that is what I am told. I am told this by those who call themselves my ally, my therapist and anyone else who does…

I am not sure who this is for, maybe this is for nobody. Perhaps this is just for me to read over and pretend that it was someone else who wrote it. The conversation that I have everyday in mind, existing in reader format adds a validating layer to the…

It’s deeper than you think — People come in all shapes and sizes; we are taught this when we are little. We see it with our own eyes and understand different kinds of people can and do exist. It is because of this that I was able to understand my identity and self easier than what’s…

I am simply a wife — There is a certain level of comfort, anxiety and vulnerability that comes with being in a wedding that those who have been in one understand. I once stood on the other side of the ceremony, wearing a bowtie and ready to accept the title of “groom”. This is different, in…

My identity is not in the hands of others, not to invalidate and not to validate. How someone feels about my identity as a woman means nothing to me and it shouldn’t mean anything — There is a term that has been going around catching steam, this term is made to describe the feelings of heterosexual women whose partners transitioned. This term is described as a woman who feels that their “male” partner has died and is not the “man” that she married. This term has been named, Trans Widow. Yes, you read this correctly.

Our Deaths and How we are only footnotes in them — It is important for those who are Cisgendered, Monogamist Heterosexual and Christian people to come to the realization of harm their words and actions hold by doing exactly what they claim we are doing. It was while scrolling through my online news stories that I came across the story of…

Our pride is not for the CisHet ran and backed companies to make money off of, Our pride is for us and it is up to us to take it back. — I came out at a time when the bodies of Black Trans Women were being brutalized, murdered, and found at record numbers. Safety was not something that was on the table for me. I watched as articles and legislation rooted in Anti Trans stances be introduced and promoted in ways…

The bodies pile up and the hate does not go away, I see that this fight is ours and is one that we will win — It was two weeks ago when I was messaged on Instagram by someone who was unhappy with me continuously focusing on Trans violence. It was two weeks ago that I was told that these horrors continue to happen because I choose to highlight them. I never understood the act of…